2009年10月10日 星期六
Weekly Task 2
Weekly Task 2
"I ask you to eat health food and some supplements, but you don’t seem to bear my words in your mind!” My mother always stresses the importance of health, and reminds me to eat some particular things every day. In the beginning, I almost refuse or ignore what she said about eating something. At that time, I dislike being asked to do what I don’t have interests in. Therefore, I sometimes have a quarrel with my mother on this issue.
As I grow up, I try to calm down when hearing “I am doing this for YOU!” or “I meant well. You will understand when you grow up”. Then, I will rethink and voice my opinions or express my inner feelings with my parents in a proper way after hearing those words.
Now, I know what my parents say is out of their love and care. Nevertheless, due to the different generation gap, my parents and I often think in different angles. That’s why we have some quarrels at times. In my opinion, if parents and their offspring can discuss about controversial domestic issues in a peaceful way, they will listen to each other’s thoughts and finally come to a compromise.
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Dear Glory,
回覆刪除I quite agree with you. We are all children no matter how old we become from parents' sights. It is very sweet that your mom ask you of eating healthy foods although you don't like. There is one thing unchanged: whatever our parents say is really out of love and care. After we calm down and rethink about it, we are more rational to face quarrels.
Yours,
Lily
Dear Glory,
回覆刪除The following paragraphs are my reflection and personal experience. I also want to share with you.
Many times, I have quarrels with my parents. Perhaps, it is because I am close to my parents, I always tell them what I think directly. There is an old saying, “Familiarity breeds contempt,” and it does show the relationship between my parents and me. When facing our families even close friends, we usually think we are familiar with each other; indeed, we know each other well. However, we never know what kinds of words may hurt others’ feeling at the moment.
For instance, when I was a senior high school student, I was stressed out by the overwhelming tests. Nevertheless, I always had confidence in myself, and I believed I can enter the National Cheng Chi University. I tried my best to achieve my goal, but my mother just seemed to ignore. Moreover, she always said something which may bring me down, such as “I don’t think you can do it,” “Are you kidding?” To be frank, I was so angry with my mother at the time. Then, I was silent and went to my bedroom. I remember I wept myself to sleep that night.
I rethink of this event, and I find that I just take everything for granted. My mother should encourage me, my mother has to trust me, and my mother should be in my shoes, and so on. Actually, I know she just wanted to urge me by sarcasm. It is true that my grade was not good enough to enter National Cheng Chi University at the time. I am used to the way my mom uses now. All of us learn the art of communication for good, and I realize it is not easy to please everyone. However, we can try to speak later, because what you say must hurt someone.
Dear Lily,
回覆刪除I have the same experience as yours. For instance, my father always encourages me when I tell him my objectives and dreams, while my mother thinks that I am daydreaming. Of course, those passive words my mom said are terrible blows to me. As the proverb that you mention, “Familiarity breeds contempt.” Perhaps, that is why my mom gives me negative responses all the time.
Although both you and I did not attend the ideal colleges, we cannot give up pursuing what we want and realizing our dreams. By the way, I wonder whether you see the bright side of your life after facing the failure. Have you considered your failure a stepping stone of success? In my opinion, it is good for people to have an optimistic attitude toward their lives. Therefore, do not be depressed when you hear someone say some negative words like “You never succeed.” Just trust yourself and stick to your determination to attain your goals.
Dear Glory,
回覆刪除Thank you for your encouragement. As you have mentioned above, I am the kind of person will never change my mind easily once I have decided to do so. Although my mom always said some words which let me down ay the time, I didn’t have the idea that I can’t do it. On the other hand, I would like to prove myself by getting greater grades for showing her I can do it. Also, your motto is quite useful, and I will keep them in my mind.
Dear Lily,
回覆刪除Sticking to your ideal and thoughts is necessary and great!
I have done something that has a lot in common with what you mentioned above. I remember that in the past, when someone looked down on me or my academic performance, I would try hard to prove myself (the same as your experience) to change his or her assessment and then impressed him or her. However, now I think I cannot always count on others’ opinions and perspectives because I feel stressed when keeping those negative comments in my mind. With that kind of terrible experience, I am trying to “be myself” rather than lead a stressful life by receiving all comments.
If you have similar experiences, I suggest that you should be self-reliant and confident about yourself. In this way, you will be happier if you try not to rely on others’ opinions so much.
I hope we can prove that “We can make it!” for ourselves instead of doing something in order to please other people or change their impressions.
Sincerely,
Glory